Monday, 12 February 2018


Most men who engage in sex outside of marriage see nothing wrong with it. However, they consider pregnancy or childbirth out side of marriage as wrong or inconvenient. Most men will convince a woman to become their sex partner even when they know deep within that they will not
condone a pregnancy or the birth of a child.

Most men become angry and bitter, if the lady they had sex with become pregnant or deliver a child. They feel or believe that any lady who gets pregnant for them has a plan to trick them into marriage. They blame the lady for allowing herself to get pregnant.

That is one of the reasons why I encourage ladies not to offer their body to a man who has not married them. The fact that he is having sex with you does not mean he loves you. He will not marry you just because you got pregnant nor had a baby for him. 

One of the greatest mistakes you can make as a single is to allow a man who is not married to you access to your body. You are lying to yourself if you believe that he will marry you just because you said you are pregnant. In fact, most men will accuse you of having sex with other men just because you are having sex with them. I wish that women understand that a man who is not ready to commit to them in marriage is not ready to welcome the birth of a child. 

A man needs to prepare himself mentally and emotionally for the birth of a child. That is why a man begins to anticipate the birth of a child as soon as he gets married. It is natural for married people to have sex and go on to have children. Whereas it is out of place for, unmarried people to have sex. The point is, do not have sex if you do not want to have a child. Most unmarried men are never ready mentally and emotionally to father a child.

That is why I believe strongly that most women who think that, the men in their life will marry them if they got pregnant for a man or have a child for him are making an irreversible mistake.

Dear single lady, you are doing yourself a disservice when you have sex with or get pregnant for a man who is not married to you because, he most likely will not marry you-even if you had more children for him.

Over the last one year, I have had the privilege to meet many women who had between 2-5 children for men who did not marry them them. In all the cases, these men did not proceed to pay their bride price and the men treated them badly. The men also did not take responsibility when it came to the issue of providing food, shelter, and clothing for the kids. The men lived in the same house with them but had affairs with other women. The men felt bitter and trapped.

Young lady, do not sell out your destiny just because you are too desperate to marry someone who does not even feel the same way about you. Moreover, you are not guaranteed marriage to him if you had sex with or got pregnant for him. Why risk a lifetime of happiness and fulfillment for something you are not sure of?

The man will convince you to have sex with him because "he claims to wants to marry you. However, the same man will deny you if you got pregnant for him. Let him marry you if he is serious.

Nigeria would become the most desirable nation to live in if we make the right choice of a partner, if we build strong and healthy families by marrying God's way. Let's build a great family and help restore order in the family. God bless you. God bless Nigeria

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